A friend wrote in a list of how boys flirt, they said: He stares at you a lot, starts random conversations, he "hits" you. He mocks you to make you laugh. He calls you cute or pretty and it makes you smile. He always stays close when he can. He looks at you, in your eyes. He listens to you and he will sometimes say something you've said in the past, even if you don't remember he does. He takes pictures of you even though you say you hate.
Flirting. Boys flirt all the time or at least they try to do. Girls you just might not pick up on it. Just recently I had a boy ask me how to be flirty. The fact of the matter is... its not a calculated thing. It just happens. When you're trying to force flirting it just comes off that you're either joking or creepy. So lets give you the low down on how to really flirt. All of what my friend wrote is true, but only half of what he wrote should be done. Boys stop flirting like we're in elementary school. Girls don't like having to guess whether you are being mean or flirty and they don't like it either way. Don't hit us. Don't try and be jerks with what you say because you think it'll make us like you're "bad boy self". Pick up lines can be cute, they can be wayyy cute, but don't just say pickup lines. Here's some ways to flirt but not too much:
- Compliment us. Girls love one things more than boys, and thats themselves. So tell us how pretty we are. Tell us that we look cute in our dress. Tell us you like our smile or our hair today. Be real with your compliments, don't just say basically the same thing everyday. Because then you're compliments lose value. Tell us that what we just said was really deep and awesome, or that we were really smart in math today. Tell us that you love the way we wrinkle our nose when we laugh or how one of our freckles on our cheaks disappears when we smile. Notice and Compliment the things you appreciate about us, the little things that we don't always recognize ourselves.
- Look at us. I love catching a guy staring at me, especially if he does a cute wink when I do catch him. Look at us when we talk or when you are talking to us. Look at us, as more than just a pretty face and look at our personality too. We all have great things about it us and its more than our bodies, its the brain inside the body.
- Touch us. Now pause- this isn't what you think this means. I am in no way condoning any sort of physical relationships. And just to make sure no one is confused I'm not talking about sex. Now on to the point. Little gestures will show your subtle flirting just perfectly. When we are talking to you, touch our arms or if we have our head down scratch our backs. If you see us in the hall and we're just passing by give us a little squeeze of the arm or elbow or something to let us know you really saw us. Give us a hug when you say goodbye or give us a hug just because. Go for it and make the first move by holding our hand (while watching a movie or walking down the street). Play with our hair (in a cute way not creepy way... be careful on this one).
-Talk. yes girls love to talk. Really we do. But come on. We like to hear you say stuff too, try to be intellectual or try to say witty comments. Just show your personality and we'll like it more than if you just acted cool and quiet. Tell us stories or about your day. Tell us the details in your life. Tell us your fears, youre dreams, your likes, your dislikes. Tell us about you. Tell us about us even. Just make sure you are you! Ask us on dates by calling us or asking in person. Don't do this crappy over texting thing. Thats so lame. Show you care at least a little bit.
- Be a Gentlemen. Hold the door for us. Let us go first. Don't be crude or gross in front of us. Try not to cuss thats not an attractive feature in a guy. Be our Prince Charmings.
Thats basically it. If you can do all of that, then I'm sure your girl will slowly fall for you because of your charm and personality. If this doesn't work let me know, I'll tell the chick what she's missing
XOXO love always,
M.
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