A light at the End

Break ups. They suck. There isn't a better way to put it, they are hard and heartbreaking most of the time. Girls, this is what you need to remember though. You may have lost your man, but you never lose your friends. When you are going through a break up, talk it out whether with your mom, your friend, or with your Heavenly Father, just let someone know whats going on and how you are feeling. You don't need to be the bigger person, holding your feelings in and toughing it out. Watch a chickflick and just let the tears flow. Every relationship you have, be it a friendship or a boyfriend, gives you memories and experiences. Never be ashamed of a relationship just because it went south. Remember the good times, learn from the bad, and try to move on.

Sometimes, you are in one of those lucky relationships where everything is great and then you guys hit a rough patch and break up. You feel crappy, and you miss your boy more than anything, you wonder what you did wrong. You give it time and then he comes back, noting his mistake and wanting to get back together and fix things. You feel elated and give him that chance. And things work great again. Boys can sometimes get confused and need to lose something to realize the value it had. If this happens to you, then thats great! I really am happy for girls who can get their cutiepies back.

For the rest of yall, don't fret when a relationship ends. Its hard, you want them back. You miss their hugs, their smell, their sweet texts, their kisses, the way they made you smile. This is all normal. But don't get into a slump. Take a week and sulk, cry, and eat chocolate icecream. But then get your life back going. Find little things that can help fill that gap. Hang with your best friends, learn a new skill- baking and cooking is a great one, get a job, and focus on all of the wonderful blessings in your life. There is always a blessing in your life, you might just have to look. When you focus on the good and on making your self a better person, everything else will fall into place.

Girls what I want you to know is You are worth it. You are fantastic ladies and have such great worth that guys are stupid for breaking up with you. You are better and shouldn't accept anything but the best. Remember that. A break up is never because you aren't good enough for a guy. As Lily Allen says, "Now, you're gone, its as if the whole wide world is my stage, Now you're gone its like I've been let out of my cage." You can do anything you want to do, you don't need a guy to do it. You have you're whole life ahead of you.

If you need someone to talk to about a break up, someone impartial to just listen, then call me, I'm here. And Remember, there is always a light at the end of the road.

XOXO love always,
M.

Time to Man Up

So I've been out of internet and haven't been able to write anything for awhile. But luckily while I'm off being busy and not having internet one of my friends wrote up some pretty good stuff that is quality work. She's pretty right about this so I thought I would post it for everyone to see.So here's what she said--

dear boys of the world.

                it has come to our attention that some of you have issues. we would like to let you know that this is normal and we still like you anyways. HOWEVER. we would like to provide you with some helpful tips concerning your issues. we think boys are too self-conscious. isn't it the girl's job to be insecure? let me tell you a little secret... we like you. no need to worry. you're cute, you're funny, and we know what's up when you get that little gleam in your eye. so let the insecurities go. girls get to be the ones who think they need makeup, who worry about their weight and whether they are pretty enough for you or not. which goes to say, you should not be afraid of us. we're really just wimpy little things. you shouldn't be self-conscious around us; we're quite harmless.

so here's a clue. go for it. though we may get to be the ones with insecurities, some of us get frustrated because, hey, we thought we were pretty cute before you boys got involved. feminism has been brought on by female dominance, and why is that? because guys are losing their confidence. strut your stuff, take your place back as the alpha male! we kind of like being the weaker sex, though we may not show it. we just need boys to be confident enough to break down our barriers.

be blunt with us. we hate boys flitting around the truth, being all wishy washy. we're weaker, but we're not THAT weak. please. be blunt. we dish it out, we can take it. we like the truth, the basics, the skinny. just give it to us plain, and we can deal. that's what we have girlfriends for.

so now your question may be... why do girls have boyfriends? let me tell you. a girl can only go so far comfort-wise. if i need a hand to hold, most of the time, i just want you. a hug from you is a whole lot better than a hug from my girls, though i do love 'em. we LIKE you. we like how you feel when you wrap your arms around us. it's safe.

if you don't like us, let us go. don't try and be all friendly with us and soften the blow. we're big girls, we can handle heartbreaks. if you're done liking us, be done. if we want to be friends, we'll come around on our own time. don't try to rush it while we're trying to get over you; it only gets confusing and makes things worse. however, if you do start to like us again, we may not pay you any attention. i mean, you kinda rejected us. but hey, if we came around once, maybe... just maybe, there's hope for you. but you've got to redeem yourself pretty well.

rule. we get to play dumb. so recognize that we're playing dumb. because we want you to tell us the truth. we're just as afraid of it as you are, if not more so. so give it to us. the only difference is, you're supposed to be the one who puts your arms around us and takes our fear away. (or, obviously, if the truth isn't what we had hoped to hear, we've got our girls to cry to.) you get to be the big, strong guy. is that what you want? yes. it is. come on, alpha male. alpha male. alpha male. say it to yourself... sounds good, yeah? alpha male. that's you. alpha male.
 
XOXO love always,
M. and Friends.

Our Five, Guys

Boys are clueless. Some of the most oblivious people on our planet are boys. So let’s fix that. This post is dedicated to letting boys know what we want in a guy. This post would be really, really long if we included every little thing, so let’s just hit the highlights with five basic things that girls like in a guy.


1. Boys, your hygiene is important. Take showers and wear deodorant. Make sure your breath smells good, use mouth wash and brush your teeth often. Mints are good to carry around. Also wear the correct amount of cologne. Do not be over bearing and wear a gallon of ax. Some good nice cologne to try is- Tim Mcgraw’s Mcgraw. Kenneth Cole’s Reaction. Antonio Banderas Spirit. Some cheaper cologne that works just as well is stuff like Hollister and Abercrobie. Next, hair find out what kind of hair style looks best on you. Shaggy longer look, buzz cuts, and fo-hawks. Just make sure you find out that it works for you and that you can manage it. Don’t get lazy, if you have to do your hair and add a little gel to look your best then do it. Now, facial hair… I am personally not a fan. A little scruff though can be too cute. Just don’t do the full on beard.

2. Be yourself, whoever that is. Girls can tell when you are trying to hard or being fake. If the girl you are trying to catch doesn’t like the real you then she isn’t worth it and you should find someone who will appreciate you. Do not change for anyone. Girls, this goes for you too! Everyone is special and wonderful and I’m sure there is someone who will fit just perfectly with you.

3. Be Confident and don’t be shy! Girls like guys who are going to make the first move. Guys just talk to her, ask her out, hold her hand. Don’t be afraid. Confidence is a very attractive attribution. Make decisions and give opinions when asked. Don’t just be wishy washy. Here is where it might get confusing. Now…I just told you to be confident… but with that you can’t be too overbearing or cocky. You should be able to know what is acceptable and what isn’t. If not you need to just ask someone.

4. Jeans and a T-shirt is a very cute and laid back outfit. Saying this, it’s also nice for change to see you in a polo or a button up. Clothes that show you put effort in what you look like and are trying to impress us girls. Try and do like I wrote with the hygiene and do your hair for once. Girls- don’t always dress up, guys like to see you look chill in just jeans and a tee looking laid back.

5. Be a gentleman. Go up to the door to get your date, and make sure you say hello to the parents, using words like “Ma’am” and “sir”. Open up the car door for her. Now you don’t always have to open the car door for her when she gets out, but when you enter a building open the door. Pay for her, whatever it is. If you are dating and she is very insistent on paying, then just allow her to pay once in a while. Offer to carry things for her, that’s a really cute gesture.

Those are just some simple things that girls like to see in a guy. Girls, we are not off the hook. I will be posting things that girls can do that guys like soon. if I forgot something or you want to fix something that I wrote please feel free to comment or email me.
XOXO Love Always,
M.

The Lovely Love Story

Yesterday while in Barnes and Noble, I found the perfect love story. Not some dirty romance novel, not some make believe fairytale, and definitely not one of those wonderful Nicholas Sparks books. It was called The Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton.  I'm sure some of y'all have read it. It is a heart warming book that everyone can understand. It shows the purest kind of love. Two dinosaurs that are just kind to each other and put aside and accept each other for how they are. This is what everyone should strive for. I want to purchase this book for every little girl and every little boy. It would teach such a lesson, that would hopefully make an impression in their lives.

I believe this kind of love is out there, with some searching and some hard work it can be found. Nothing comes easy especially when its for something so lovely and worth while. I have seen this kind of love with my own eyes. I'm sure you have too. You see it with your parents or grandparents or just those random people. My favorite is seeing old people still madly in love. Seeing the little things they do for each other and the look in their eyes as they do it. That is what I'm going to have, I've already decided. I'm going to have my fairytale ending and it may not be that I become a princess and live in a castle, but that I become the princess for my prince and when we are together in whatever type of house we have that it is our castle. Whether dirt poor or financially stable, making the best of who I'm with and what we are doing to become happy people and make other people happy as well. It isn't what you have or what you do but who you do everything with and everything for. A Nicholas Sparks quote from The Lucky One that I like is "She was struck by the simple truth that sometimes the most ordinary things could be made extraordinary, simply by doing them with the right people..."

The purpose of this blog: What we want in a perfect guy. What we want for a perfect relationship. Advice on relationships. Advice on what to do to get that one guy. Crushes, Friendships, Relationships. I'm going to be writing about it all. This first post might have been a little deep for a first post, but I want my readers to know that I believe in true love. I believe that with hope and faith and hard work anything is possible. Not everything will turn out how we expect in life, but it will all be for us to learn and grow from. And That is the perspective I'm going to give. Write me emails and comments about situations and questions and about your own thoughts.

XOXO love always,
M.