Its been sooooo long! Happy New Year. Its 2012. The Year YOU need to make something happen. It doesn't matter what it is that you make happen. But I'm hoping you all have goals and that you all are ready to step into a new, better you! So here's the deal. This year I have a challenge for you. Do something Spontaneous that YOU want to do. Whether its talking to the girl you have a crush on. Asking the guy you like on a date. Trying out for a school play/sport/team/club. Go out there and Do something new! Since this is mainly a blog about boys and girls and their interactions. I'm gonna tell you a story that inspired me to write this post. I was recently at a concert of my favorite artist. He's super sweet, nice, funny, hot, and a great musician. I knew I wanted to do something life changing when I met him. So I decided to give him a Chocolate Kiss. To pretend that I was gonna give him a real kiss, but to fake him out and just give him the candy. When the time came and I was back stage with him just joking around. As I go to fake out a kiss, I decided right on the spot that this was a once in a life time opportunity and that I needed to just go through and kiss him. So I did. I still gave him the chocolate kiss, but it was the most perfect moment in my life (uptonow). He was so super sweet about it. The way you feel after you do something spontaneous is the best feeling in the world. The power, the adrenalin, the rush. The feeling of doing what your heart wants and what you know is right is just exhilarating. So go, go do something. Go running and just think. Think of what matters to you, think about who you are. Think about reinventing yourself to becoming the best person you can possibly be. If you like a girl- go do something about it. If it doesn't go well, then its okay at least you tried. If you never try you will always regret, you will always think of "what could've been" or "what might've been". Thats all I really have to say! Go Live a Life you're proud of living!
XOXO
M.
27.2.12
8.11.11
I've lost my phone number.. can I have yours?
A friend wrote in a list of how boys flirt, they said: He stares at you a lot, starts random conversations, he "hits" you. He mocks you to make you laugh. He calls you cute or pretty and it makes you smile. He always stays close when he can. He looks at you, in your eyes. He listens to you and he will sometimes say something you've said in the past, even if you don't remember he does. He takes pictures of you even though you say you hate.
Flirting. Boys flirt all the time or at least they try to do. Girls you just might not pick up on it. Just recently I had a boy ask me how to be flirty. The fact of the matter is... its not a calculated thing. It just happens. When you're trying to force flirting it just comes off that you're either joking or creepy. So lets give you the low down on how to really flirt. All of what my friend wrote is true, but only half of what he wrote should be done. Boys stop flirting like we're in elementary school. Girls don't like having to guess whether you are being mean or flirty and they don't like it either way. Don't hit us. Don't try and be jerks with what you say because you think it'll make us like you're "bad boy self". Pick up lines can be cute, they can be wayyy cute, but don't just say pickup lines. Here's some ways to flirt but not too much:
- Compliment us. Girls love one things more than boys, and thats themselves. So tell us how pretty we are. Tell us that we look cute in our dress. Tell us you like our smile or our hair today. Be real with your compliments, don't just say basically the same thing everyday. Because then you're compliments lose value. Tell us that what we just said was really deep and awesome, or that we were really smart in math today. Tell us that you love the way we wrinkle our nose when we laugh or how one of our freckles on our cheaks disappears when we smile. Notice and Compliment the things you appreciate about us, the little things that we don't always recognize ourselves.
- Look at us. I love catching a guy staring at me, especially if he does a cute wink when I do catch him. Look at us when we talk or when you are talking to us. Look at us, as more than just a pretty face and look at our personality too. We all have great things about it us and its more than our bodies, its the brain inside the body.
- Touch us. Now pause- this isn't what you think this means. I am in no way condoning any sort of physical relationships. And just to make sure no one is confused I'm not talking about sex. Now on to the point. Little gestures will show your subtle flirting just perfectly. When we are talking to you, touch our arms or if we have our head down scratch our backs. If you see us in the hall and we're just passing by give us a little squeeze of the arm or elbow or something to let us know you really saw us. Give us a hug when you say goodbye or give us a hug just because. Go for it and make the first move by holding our hand (while watching a movie or walking down the street). Play with our hair (in a cute way not creepy way... be careful on this one).
-Talk. yes girls love to talk. Really we do. But come on. We like to hear you say stuff too, try to be intellectual or try to say witty comments. Just show your personality and we'll like it more than if you just acted cool and quiet. Tell us stories or about your day. Tell us the details in your life. Tell us your fears, youre dreams, your likes, your dislikes. Tell us about you. Tell us about us even. Just make sure you are you! Ask us on dates by calling us or asking in person. Don't do this crappy over texting thing. Thats so lame. Show you care at least a little bit.
- Be a Gentlemen. Hold the door for us. Let us go first. Don't be crude or gross in front of us. Try not to cuss thats not an attractive feature in a guy. Be our Prince Charmings.
Thats basically it. If you can do all of that, then I'm sure your girl will slowly fall for you because of your charm and personality. If this doesn't work let me know, I'll tell the chick what she's missing
XOXO love always,
M.
Flirting. Boys flirt all the time or at least they try to do. Girls you just might not pick up on it. Just recently I had a boy ask me how to be flirty. The fact of the matter is... its not a calculated thing. It just happens. When you're trying to force flirting it just comes off that you're either joking or creepy. So lets give you the low down on how to really flirt. All of what my friend wrote is true, but only half of what he wrote should be done. Boys stop flirting like we're in elementary school. Girls don't like having to guess whether you are being mean or flirty and they don't like it either way. Don't hit us. Don't try and be jerks with what you say because you think it'll make us like you're "bad boy self". Pick up lines can be cute, they can be wayyy cute, but don't just say pickup lines. Here's some ways to flirt but not too much:
- Compliment us. Girls love one things more than boys, and thats themselves. So tell us how pretty we are. Tell us that we look cute in our dress. Tell us you like our smile or our hair today. Be real with your compliments, don't just say basically the same thing everyday. Because then you're compliments lose value. Tell us that what we just said was really deep and awesome, or that we were really smart in math today. Tell us that you love the way we wrinkle our nose when we laugh or how one of our freckles on our cheaks disappears when we smile. Notice and Compliment the things you appreciate about us, the little things that we don't always recognize ourselves.
- Look at us. I love catching a guy staring at me, especially if he does a cute wink when I do catch him. Look at us when we talk or when you are talking to us. Look at us, as more than just a pretty face and look at our personality too. We all have great things about it us and its more than our bodies, its the brain inside the body.
- Touch us. Now pause- this isn't what you think this means. I am in no way condoning any sort of physical relationships. And just to make sure no one is confused I'm not talking about sex. Now on to the point. Little gestures will show your subtle flirting just perfectly. When we are talking to you, touch our arms or if we have our head down scratch our backs. If you see us in the hall and we're just passing by give us a little squeeze of the arm or elbow or something to let us know you really saw us. Give us a hug when you say goodbye or give us a hug just because. Go for it and make the first move by holding our hand (while watching a movie or walking down the street). Play with our hair (in a cute way not creepy way... be careful on this one).
-Talk. yes girls love to talk. Really we do. But come on. We like to hear you say stuff too, try to be intellectual or try to say witty comments. Just show your personality and we'll like it more than if you just acted cool and quiet. Tell us stories or about your day. Tell us the details in your life. Tell us your fears, youre dreams, your likes, your dislikes. Tell us about you. Tell us about us even. Just make sure you are you! Ask us on dates by calling us or asking in person. Don't do this crappy over texting thing. Thats so lame. Show you care at least a little bit.
- Be a Gentlemen. Hold the door for us. Let us go first. Don't be crude or gross in front of us. Try not to cuss thats not an attractive feature in a guy. Be our Prince Charmings.
Thats basically it. If you can do all of that, then I'm sure your girl will slowly fall for you because of your charm and personality. If this doesn't work let me know, I'll tell the chick what she's missing
XOXO love always,
M.
21.10.11
Why can't we be friends
The words girls never want to hear. "We can still be friends". But here's the deal. Why can't you still be friends? I know, you think it'll get to complicated or it'll just be awkward, but truth is after some time being friends is a great possibility if you just put forth a tiny bit of effort. Here's the bottom line. A relationship should be two best friends that hold hands and kiss. So now you should just be taking out the holding hands and the kissing and the dates.I know you girls are thinking, "what does she know" and "its not that simple". But the thing is I do know. I just went through it. And with effort and some time, we're gonna be back to normal as friends. If you can't be friends after a relationship then in reality, your relationship wasn't worth the time.
XOXO love always,
M.
16.10.11
txt me. call me. be with me.
First off, everyone knows the biggest way to talk to people now a days is by texting or facebook. Boys- yall are not good at texting or facebook for the most part. Here's the deal, in person a boy can be funny and cute and sarcastic and sweet but give him a phone and its one word answers like "yeah!" or "lol hah. :)". Come on now. If we like talking to you then give us something to talk about. Girls don't like being the ones that have to hold the conversation all the time. That just gets boring and then we won't wanna text you. So basically, the point is if you're going to text a girl, make it good. give it some pizzaz, make the conversation last a bit longer than usual, try to be the one initiating and holding the conversation over texting or facebook.
Secondly, if you are one of the boys that doesn't like texting (because its too much of a hassle or you're just too lazy) then call her up, or write her a letter. There are more ways then one to talk to a girl. Writing her a sweet note or calling her randomly just to hear about her day or how she's doing will totally make her smile and make her day. It doesn't even have to be a full on letter, just leave a sticky note with something cute on her desk, locker, etc. Its not hard. if you need ideas just email me and I'll give you plenty of them! Thats what I'm here for. If you are too lazy to do either of those then you should GO SEE HER. Nothing beats face to face conversations. Flirting is best face to face anyways, its not like you can hold hand over the internet or texting. So here's the challenge try it. Try something new to spice up what yall talk about, to get to know her better, to make her smile.
M.
24.9.11
Wanting. Wishing. Hoping. Knowing
What do I want?
I want a boy who is my best friend. A boy who is honest and open, a boy who tells me when I look a mess that I look like a mess, a boy that tells me when I do something right and when I do something wrong. I want a boy who makes me laugh...alot. I want a boy who makes my heart beat like a humming birds wings. I want a boy who is smart and a go-getter. I want a boy who lets me feel safe when I'm feeling scared. I want to wish on a shooting star and to know that my wish will come true.
What do I wish?
I wish that boys would just be straight forward. I hate these stupid guessing games. If you like me let me know. If not and you just wanna be friends, thats way cool too. Just let us know. Boys- stop being a "player" thinking that its cool and stop trying not to hurt our feelings by leading us on. I wish that I didn't worry what I looked like. I wish I had something witty to say all the time. I wish I was the girl any guy would want. I wish for a love story that will last a life time and will make other girls strive the what I have. I wish for the hope to always continue on.
What do I hope?
I hope every one would realize how many people care for them. I hope that I don't miss my opportunities. I hope I make a good impression on you. I hope that things will all work out. I hope that people would just love and forget hate and anger. I hope for a better path. I hope for the life I wish and want.
What do I know?
I know love is real. I know my parents, siblings, and friends love me. I know that I have everything I need right now. I know that when things don't work out that its for the better and that I needed that experience to make me the type of person I want to be. I know that everyday won't be sunny. I know that its only in the dark that you see the stars and those stars are what will lead you back home. I know that if I make myself the best person I could be that I will find the boy that will be the best boy for me too. I know that anything is possible.
XOXO Love always,
M.
I want a boy who is my best friend. A boy who is honest and open, a boy who tells me when I look a mess that I look like a mess, a boy that tells me when I do something right and when I do something wrong. I want a boy who makes me laugh...alot. I want a boy who makes my heart beat like a humming birds wings. I want a boy who is smart and a go-getter. I want a boy who lets me feel safe when I'm feeling scared. I want to wish on a shooting star and to know that my wish will come true.
What do I wish?
I wish that boys would just be straight forward. I hate these stupid guessing games. If you like me let me know. If not and you just wanna be friends, thats way cool too. Just let us know. Boys- stop being a "player" thinking that its cool and stop trying not to hurt our feelings by leading us on. I wish that I didn't worry what I looked like. I wish I had something witty to say all the time. I wish I was the girl any guy would want. I wish for a love story that will last a life time and will make other girls strive the what I have. I wish for the hope to always continue on.
What do I hope?
I hope every one would realize how many people care for them. I hope that I don't miss my opportunities. I hope I make a good impression on you. I hope that things will all work out. I hope that people would just love and forget hate and anger. I hope for a better path. I hope for the life I wish and want.
What do I know?
I know love is real. I know my parents, siblings, and friends love me. I know that I have everything I need right now. I know that when things don't work out that its for the better and that I needed that experience to make me the type of person I want to be. I know that everyday won't be sunny. I know that its only in the dark that you see the stars and those stars are what will lead you back home. I know that if I make myself the best person I could be that I will find the boy that will be the best boy for me too. I know that anything is possible.
XOXO Love always,
M.
6.9.11
Its Kinda A Funny Story
It's been a while. I've had to much to do and not enough time to do it so I've been slacking on my blogging. To make up for it, I've made a goal to write on here at least once a week. Hopefully, I can't keep that goal together and not let it be like the other hundred goals people make and don't keep.
So heres a tip for the ladies and heres one for the misters. Ladies don't get caught up on a guy to quick. A flirty guy may just be a flirty guy not an interested guy. If you don't want heart ache, don't just put your heart up for grabs to the first guy that comes around. Have fun with boys and enjoy flirting with them, but just be a tad bit cautious. Guys, don't flirt with two girls at once. If you are a flirty type guy then be flirty, thats cool and way fun. Don't sneak around flirting with one girl and flirt with another girl too. Its just silly.
Now, why would I bring that up? Probably because I had a personal experience with it this weekend. Now, my heart wasn't broke because a boy was flirting with me and my friend at once because I thought it was hilarious and a perfect story to write about. So I was watching a movie with a bunch of girls and guys. I was sitting by a boy, lets call him Timmy, and next to Timmy was a girl named... Jane. So all three of us were pretty squished on this little couch. Timmy trying to make us all comfortable puts both of his arms around us. Standard guy move, not a big deal. So Jane leans back on Timmy. And Timmy starts playing with my hair and scratching my back and being all cutesie. I was like I might as well repay the favor. So I was scratching his back. With only 20 minutes left of the movie Jane gets up and goes and lays on the ground next to me. Right as she does this Timmy stops being all sweet and just lays his hand on my shoulder. I was like hmmm... interesting. So I see Jane the next day and she's all excited because Jimmy was flirting with her and cuddley with her during the movie. I didn't have the heart to tell her that he was doing the same thing with me. But figured I'd just back up and let her make any moves on him. Moral of this story is if I were to have told Jane, then Jimmy would be left with no one and Jane would've been kinda sad. So Boys, pick one and be happy about it or just don't be sneaky about your multi-person flirting and then everythings okay too.
So theres my funny story and little bit of advice for ya! :) Have a story like this? Let me share it! Email me.
XOXO love always,
M.
So heres a tip for the ladies and heres one for the misters. Ladies don't get caught up on a guy to quick. A flirty guy may just be a flirty guy not an interested guy. If you don't want heart ache, don't just put your heart up for grabs to the first guy that comes around. Have fun with boys and enjoy flirting with them, but just be a tad bit cautious. Guys, don't flirt with two girls at once. If you are a flirty type guy then be flirty, thats cool and way fun. Don't sneak around flirting with one girl and flirt with another girl too. Its just silly.
Now, why would I bring that up? Probably because I had a personal experience with it this weekend. Now, my heart wasn't broke because a boy was flirting with me and my friend at once because I thought it was hilarious and a perfect story to write about. So I was watching a movie with a bunch of girls and guys. I was sitting by a boy, lets call him Timmy, and next to Timmy was a girl named... Jane. So all three of us were pretty squished on this little couch. Timmy trying to make us all comfortable puts both of his arms around us. Standard guy move, not a big deal. So Jane leans back on Timmy. And Timmy starts playing with my hair and scratching my back and being all cutesie. I was like I might as well repay the favor. So I was scratching his back. With only 20 minutes left of the movie Jane gets up and goes and lays on the ground next to me. Right as she does this Timmy stops being all sweet and just lays his hand on my shoulder. I was like hmmm... interesting. So I see Jane the next day and she's all excited because Jimmy was flirting with her and cuddley with her during the movie. I didn't have the heart to tell her that he was doing the same thing with me. But figured I'd just back up and let her make any moves on him. Moral of this story is if I were to have told Jane, then Jimmy would be left with no one and Jane would've been kinda sad. So Boys, pick one and be happy about it or just don't be sneaky about your multi-person flirting and then everythings okay too.
So theres my funny story and little bit of advice for ya! :) Have a story like this? Let me share it! Email me.
XOXO love always,
M.
4.8.11
Lables
Recently, I read a chick flick that gave names to the types of people we are in relation to relationships. It was really interesting and so true! Which Girl do you think you are? Which type of Boy do you like? Here's how it goes:
Squirrely Girls (heartbreaker)- 1.able to make a man's heart putty in her hands 2. runs from commitment by stringing boys along 3. puts guys on the back burner while waiting for the perfect on (The Challenge) to come along
BackBurner Boys(consistent)- 1. nice guy 2. unbeknownst to him, is the poor victim of Suirrely Girls 3. fed lines to be kept at bay 4. placed coyly on the back burner as a type of insurance policy in case nothing better comes along 5. kept interested enough to not give up hope, but not given enough interest to get ideas; destined to become a Bitter Boy.
Best Gal Pal(exploited)- 1. willing to do anything for anybody; always listening; always there; always the support system 2. not a threat
The Challenge(player)- 1. the guy Squirrelly Girl cannot resist 2. the one and only 3. unattainable (hardly returns calls) 4. put plainly he's a jerk, the bad boy,
Bitter Boy(hopeless)- 1, has broken heart cause by his antisocial behavior or being left out on the burner too long 2. hard and cold heartedd like burnt toast he is charred to a crisp
Burnt Girl (not interested)- 1. discouraged and just out of a relationship (or years out); not ready for any new sparks 2.on the run and can't move on with her life because she was played (mainly by the Challenge)
Barnacle(stalker)- 1. has amazing ability to glom onto girls and pays so much attention to one particular girl that other guys think she's taken and leave her alone, causing the girl to get desperate and issue a restraining order 2. in times of famine or miracle or out of shear exhaustion the girl may go for the sed barnacle boy
Claim Staker(over zealous)- 1. has nasty habit of dibbing guys whether or not claimed guy is interested back and in the process makes other girls back off
Safe Guy(best friend) 1. can also be a harmless guy, player guy, bitter guy, taken guy, former guy, and best guy friend but either way you can depend on his noncommittal attitudes to keep your heart safe 2. won't make a move 3. might turn on you
You know that you see these "characters" everywhere you go. So, heres my advice- go for boy that is a mix between the Challenge and the Safe Guy. And boys- the Best Gal Pal is just trying to ttention help and get your attention, so give her some interest and see what she's like. Squirrely Girls are quite fun, but sometimes they need to be humbled and then they become the perfect girlfriend type. Wanna tell me about your experience or get advice dealing with one of those types? Hit me up
XOXO love always,
M.
Squirrely Girls (heartbreaker)- 1.able to make a man's heart putty in her hands 2. runs from commitment by stringing boys along 3. puts guys on the back burner while waiting for the perfect on (The Challenge) to come along
BackBurner Boys(consistent)- 1. nice guy 2. unbeknownst to him, is the poor victim of Suirrely Girls 3. fed lines to be kept at bay 4. placed coyly on the back burner as a type of insurance policy in case nothing better comes along 5. kept interested enough to not give up hope, but not given enough interest to get ideas; destined to become a Bitter Boy.
Best Gal Pal(exploited)- 1. willing to do anything for anybody; always listening; always there; always the support system 2. not a threat
The Challenge(player)- 1. the guy Squirrelly Girl cannot resist 2. the one and only 3. unattainable (hardly returns calls) 4. put plainly he's a jerk, the bad boy,
Bitter Boy(hopeless)- 1, has broken heart cause by his antisocial behavior or being left out on the burner too long 2. hard and cold heartedd like burnt toast he is charred to a crisp
Burnt Girl (not interested)- 1. discouraged and just out of a relationship (or years out); not ready for any new sparks 2.on the run and can't move on with her life because she was played (mainly by the Challenge)
Barnacle(stalker)- 1. has amazing ability to glom onto girls and pays so much attention to one particular girl that other guys think she's taken and leave her alone, causing the girl to get desperate and issue a restraining order 2. in times of famine or miracle or out of shear exhaustion the girl may go for the sed barnacle boy
Claim Staker(over zealous)- 1. has nasty habit of dibbing guys whether or not claimed guy is interested back and in the process makes other girls back off
Safe Guy(best friend) 1. can also be a harmless guy, player guy, bitter guy, taken guy, former guy, and best guy friend but either way you can depend on his noncommittal attitudes to keep your heart safe 2. won't make a move 3. might turn on you
You know that you see these "characters" everywhere you go. So, heres my advice- go for boy that is a mix between the Challenge and the Safe Guy. And boys- the Best Gal Pal is just trying to ttention help and get your attention, so give her some interest and see what she's like. Squirrely Girls are quite fun, but sometimes they need to be humbled and then they become the perfect girlfriend type. Wanna tell me about your experience or get advice dealing with one of those types? Hit me up
XOXO love always,
M.
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